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In a world driven by urgency, reaction, and emotional decision-making, most people don’t fail because they lack intelligence — they fail because they decide too fast. 

In this final episode of Thinking 2 Think, M.A. Aponte introduces The 24-Hour Rule — a simple but powerful decision-making framework designed to prevent regret, reduce emotional bias, and improve judgment in high-stakes situations. 

This episode breaks down why impulsive decisions lead to long-term consequences, how cognitive bias distorts judgment in the moment, and how a structured pause can transform the way you lead, invest, and live. 

Drawing from experience in finance, law enforcement, and education leadership, Aponte provides a practical system for making clearer, more rational decisions when it matters most. 

If you want to think better, lead better, and avoid costly mistakes — this is the framework to master.  

🔍 In This Episode: 

• Why urgency is often an illusion
• The hidden cost of emotional decision-making
• How cognitive bias impacts judgment under pressure
• The 24-Hour Rule explained step-by-step
• How to apply delayed decision-making in leadership, finance, and life

🎯 Perfect For:
Leaders, professionals, educators, entrepreneurs, and anyone looking to improve decision-making, critical thinking, and judgment under uncertainty.
 

Transcript

Street Chaos And A Sergeant’s Pause

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October 23rd, 2014, Jamaica Queens. I'm in my command getting dressed for a roll call. One of the first ones ready. Haven't even turned on my radio yet. And my sergeant comes around the corner, grabs me, and says 1013. Officers down, four blocks away. My no information, no details. I didn't know if it was a shooting, a bombing, a terrorist attack. All I knew was that cops were hurt and they were close. And I needed those rookies. They just graduated the Academy in July. Every cell in my body wanted to do one thing: run to them, grab my gear and sprint those four blocks. Get there, help, do something. My sergeant put me in the car. I wanted to run. He said no, we drive, we stick together. We don't rush into what we don't understand. I was angry at that moment. I thought he was slowing me down. I thought the seconds mattered and he was wasting them. But he was right because what we drove into was chaos. A man had charged four officers with an 18-inch hatchet. One officer's skull was shattered, and the scene was still unsecured. If I had run in alone without my partner, without information, without a plan, I could have been the next casualty. Or I could have been made a split second decision that hurt someone who didn't deserve it. Five words, that's all it took. Slow is smooth, smooth as fast. Our sergeant didn't say those exact words in that moment. He just lived them. But the phrase, which I first learned in the army and heard echoed by every senior NYPD officer who'd seen combat has been the single most important principle of my entire life. And over the past seven weeks, I've been teaching you, hopefully, different versions of it without you even realizing it. The clear protocol. In my previous episode, uh, your feed is lying to you, critical thinking during the Iran crisis, which aired on March 11, 2026, slow is smooth, the hold protocol and the episode about money, slow is smooth, the radar method and the episode regarding manipulation, slow is smooth, the shift method, an episode on how to change people's mind, slow is smooth. Every single framework in this series is a different way of expressing one idea. The first person to react is usually the first person to make a devastating mistake. Today, in this set of series finale, I'm going to show you how this one principle, the 24-hour rule, ties together everything we've built. And I'm going to make the case that it might be the most important skill you ever developed. I'm Mike Aponte, also known as MA Aponte, and this is Thinking to Think. Give yourself 24 hours. One day, that's it. Not 24 hours of ignoring the problem. Not 24 hours of pretending it doesn't exist. 24 hours of deliberate processing, moving from fast, emotional, reactive brain, what psychologists call system one, to slow, careful, analytical brain. That's system two. 24 hours for the fear chemicals to fade, the thinking part of your brain to wake back up, and your logic to catch up with your feelings. Here's why this works. And it's backed by brain science. When something triggers you a market crash, a personal attack, an outrageous headline, a betrayal, your brain's fear center, the amygdala, floods your body with stress hormones called cortisol and adrenaline. These chemicals are designed to help you fight or run. They are not designed to help you think. In fact, they actively shut down the part of your brain responsible for good judgment, planning ahead, and thinking through consequences. And scientists call that part the prefrontal cortex. Think of it as the CEO of your brain. When cortisol is running the show, the CEO has been locked out of the building. The stress hormone in cortisol has what scientists call a half-life, the time it takes for half of it to leave your system of about 60 to 90 minutes. But the effects on your thinking, the narrowed focus, the black and white thinking, the inability to see what happens two steps down the road, those can last 6 to 24 hours, which means for up to a full day after something upsets you, your brain is working at reduced power. You are, in a very real way, temporarily less intelligent than your normal self. And yet, what do most people do within the first hour of being triggered? They make decisions. All while their brain is running at maybe 60% of its actual ability. The 24-hour rule is the simplest fix in the world. Just wait, not forever, just one day. And in that one day, the chemistry changes, the perspective shifts, and the decision you make is almost always better than the one you would have made in that first hour. I've seen these principles save careers, save marriages, save investment portfolios, and in my NYPD career, save lives. And let me show you how. Let's start with the army, where I first learned it. I first absorbed slowest smooth, smooth as fast in the army. I was branched infantry, then moved to combat engineers when I was uh commissioned. I went to basic training um at Fort Knox, Kentucky, unlike a lot of my peers who were able to go through their program through other means. And I've and I had family members who were enlisted and NCOs. So this philosophy was in my blood before I ever put on a uniform. In training, everything is designed to make you react. The drill sergeants create chaos, they throw pressure at you, they want to see if you'll panic or process. And the soldiers who were really good, the ones who excelled, were never the fastest to react. They were the fastest to assess. And here's the huge difference between those two things. Reacting is doing the first thing your emotion suggests. Assessing is taking a beat every single breath to scan the situation before you move. I was skilled, I was good in my job, but I had a weakness. I could stay calm during tactical situations, but when someone came at me personally, and I experienced direct, deliberate racism during my service, including having my rifle sabotage and being called a slur to my face at uh, this is advanced training at uh Fort Lewis, Washington. I couldn't separate my personal from the tactical. My emotional brain took over completely, and my reaction in those moments were not my best. And it affected my my future career in in the army because of it. Uh looking back, that was my first lesson, and why the 24-hour rule matters when you need it most. In a tactical situation, I could slow down because my sense of who I am wasn't being attacked, just the situation around me. But when the attack was personal, when it was about who I was, not just what was happening, the emotional takeover was total. I couldn't pause, I couldn't assess, I could only react. And coming from New York City and being raised in the projects, you react accordingly. But that's neither here or there. That difference between the situations that threaten your circumstances and situations that threaten your identity is the key to understanding when the 24-hour rules matter the most. The more personal, the bigger the trigger. The more you need to pause. I didn't have to react for personal attacks because genuinely, at the moment, my life was not in jeopardy, and neither was anyone else's. The NYPD. And this is where it saved lives, believe it or not. By the time I got the NYPD, the principal had been drilled into me by the instructors and senior officers who were part of enlisted combat veterans. These guys had seen what happens when people rush in without thinking. Some of them had lost friends to it. So slowest moved wasn't a catchy phrase. It's how you stayed alive. On October 23rd, 2014, when the 1013 came in and my sergeant put me in the vehicle, he was using what I call the 24-second vow, the compressed version for the situation where lives are actually on the line. Not 24 hours, but the same idea. Create a gap between what just happened and what you're about to do next. Even 10 seconds of scanning the scene before you move can mean the difference between saving someone and becoming a casualty yourself. But here's where I failed a little. After Detective Ramos and Lou were killed two months later, I didn't take 24 hours. I didn't take 24 minutes. The fear and the rage hit me, and I leapt on drive for weeks. I became aggressive towards civilians, asking me questions or, you know, uh approaching me. I stopped trusting anyone not wearing the uniform. I treated everyone as a potential threat. If I had followed my own training, if I had recognized that my emotion had hijacked my brain and given myself time to process, I would have responded differently, better, more like the officer I wanted to be. And eventually it I came back to. This is why I have an amazing record. But that's not that's besides the point. The lesson I carry from that time, the 24-hour rule is hardest to follow when you need it most, when the trigger is intense, when the emotion is overwhelming, when every instinct screams, act now. That's exactly when the pause matters most. And that's exactly when you're most likely to skip it. Merrill Lynch, where it saved fortunes. At Merrill Lynch, the 24-hour rule was the backbone of how I manage my clients. When the market dropped, when the client called in panic, when the news was screaming disaster, the first thing I did was slow the conversation down. I told you in the episode regarding money about the client who panicked sold his entire portfolio. What I didn't tell you is that before that happened, I had already saved a dozen other clients from that exact same mistake using the exact same approach. Let's not make any decisions today. Let's talk again tomorrow. I want you to sleep on this. Every single time, every time, the client who waited 24 hours made a better decision than the one they would have made in the heat of the moment. Some still choose to sell, but they sold what they planned at a reasonable price instead of panic selling at the absolute worst moment. The 24-hour gap didn't change what was happening in the market. It changed the brain that was processing the market. In finance, there's a concept called decision fatigue. The idea that the quality of your decision gets worse and worse the more decisions you make under stress. Like a battery draining. The 24-hour rule recharges that battery. It lets the fatigue clear out. And the decision that comes from a rested, recalibrated brain is almost always better than the one that comes from a drained panic brain. Remember, the JP Morgan number from the episode regarding money. Missing just the 10 best days in the market over 20 years cuts your total returns by more than half. And those best days almost always show up right after the worst days. The investors who panic sell on the worst day miss the best day that follow. 24-hour rule keeps you in the game long enough for the recovery to start. The classroom, where it saves futures. At my school, I teach the 24-hour rule to my staff, my students, and parents when the conversation comes up. And I use it on myself every single day. When a parent comes in angry, like the one I told you about in a previous episode, I don't react to the anger. I listen. I take it in. If the issue is complicated, I say I want to give this attention, it deserves. Let me look into it today and we'll talk tomorrow. That's the 24-hour rule in action. And it works not because I'm avoiding the problem, far from it, but because tomorrow both of us will be calmer, better informed, and more capable of having a real conversation. When a student does something that makes me angry, and yes, students can absolutely make make you angry. Surprise, surprise. I talk to my team, and then I act. Because a disciplined decision made in anger is almost always too harsh. But when you go too far, you break trust. The 24-hour rule protects the relationship while still dealing with the behavior. This is what I mean when I say slow is smooth, smooth is fast. The principal who reacts immediately feels efficient, but they spend the next few weeks cleaning up the mess from a hasty decision. The principal who waits 24 hours feels slow in the moment, but gets it right the first time. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Now, let me show you something. I want you to see how everything we built across the seven episodes uh fits together. Because it's not seven separate tools, it's one system with seven parts. And the 24-hour rule is the operating system that makes all of them run. And if you're wondering, the first episode started in March 11 was uploaded March 11, 2026, up until now. Episode one the clear protocol. When you feed is flooded with crisis information, check your body, label the source, evaluate what you know, acknowledge what you don't, redirect to what you control. What's the idea underneath all of that? Slow down before you process. Don't react to the first headline. Give yourself time to move from emotional reaction to clear-headed evaluation. That's the 24-hour rule applied to how you take in information. The second part of the series, the 73-year chain. We trace 73 years of mistakes stacking on top of each other between the US and Iranian conflict. Every major error, the 1953 overthrow, the hostage crisis, the deal withdrawal, the current strikes, was first reaction that ignored what would happen 10 or 20 years down the road. What psychologists call first order thinking. Solving today's problems without asking, what does my solution create tomorrow? The entire 73-year chain is what happens when countries skip the 24-hour rule and operate on impulse at a civilization scale. The third episode of the series introduced the hold protocol. Halt emotional decisions. Organize what you own. Look at actual numbers. Diversify your anxiety. Ask the contrarian question. Hold protocol is literally the 24-hour rule apply to your money. Don't sell today, don't buy today, wait. Process, decide tomorrow. The client who panicked, sold, failed the 24-hour rule. The investor who held through 2008 and grew 400%, they lived it. The fourth episode of the series, we introduced the radar method, reciprocator traps, authority exploitation, excuse me, desperation, manufacturing, anchoring, reframing. The radar method catches manipulation. And the single most important question in the whole framework was what happens if I wait 24 hours? If a manipulator needs you to decide right now, they're using fake urgency to stop you from thinking. 24-hour rule is your ultimate shield against every manipulation attempt because no real opportunity disappears because you slept on it. In the fifth episode of the series, we introduce the shift method. Seek to understand. That's S. Highlight common ground. Introduce through questions. Frame around their values. Test with small ass. The shift method requires patience, the willingness to listen before you talk, to understand before you persuade, to move slowly through a conversation instead of racing to your point. You can't shift someone in 30 seconds. It takes time. It takes letting someone's own thinking develop over hours or days. That's slow, it's smooth, applied to how you talk to people. Then this previous episode, before this one, the tribe audit. Tribal thinking is fast. Your brain sorts people into us and them in a split second. The antidotes, treating your opinions as working guesses instead of an identity, badges, practicing both AN thinking, building connections that cross team lines, all require deliberate effort. They require the pause. The 24-hour rule is what keeps you from being captured by the first team that fires up your emotions. When you wait a day before picking a side, you give yourself time to see the issues from multiple angles instead of just the one of your team is pushing. Do you see it? One principle, seven uses. The clear protocol slows your information process. The whole protocol shows, excuse me, slows your money decisions. The radar method slows your response to manipulation. The shift method slows your conversations. The tribal audit slows your identity formation. And the 24-hour rule sits underneath all of them as the master operating system that makes every other tool work. Without the pause, none of them work. With the pause, all of them work. That's why I saved this episode for last of the series. Because the 24-hour rule isn't one more tool in the toolbox. It's the hand that holds every tool. Now, I need to answer the obvious question. Are there times when you shouldn't wait 24 hours? Yes, absolutely. There are situations that genuinely need immediate attention. One, physical safety. Physical safety threats, yours or someone else's, if someone is in danger, act now. My sergeant didn't wait 24 hours to respond to that 1013. He compressed the principal down to seconds. When we were doing a squad tactical exercise, even in the military, my decisions were down to seconds, uh seconds, but I still managed to assess the situation before making decisions, which made me very, very effective. Medical emergencies. Call 911. Now, not tomorrow, uh, if there's an emergency. Real deadlines at work. Ones that are actual, real, not made up to pressure you. I mean, real deadlines. Those don't have 24 hour rules. Just do the work. Don't get don't lose your job. And then finally, situations where waiting would cause harm to someone else that can't be undone. The whole concept of the 24 hour rules can be narrowed down to 24 minutes, 24 seconds. But taking a pause before uh before acting uh to a situation is key. That's the most important part. But if you can wait 24 hours, please do. But night. Not when someone's uh is in harm's way. But here's the key the situations that genuinely need immediate action are far fewer than your brain tells you. Your fear center, the amygdala, wants everything to feel urgent. That's its job. To create urgency so you act before a threat can become real. Back when our ancestors lived in open plains surrounded by predators, that instinct saved lives. In your world, it destroys investment accounts, relationships, and reputations. Here's the task. Ask yourself, if I wait 24 hours, will someone be physically hurt? And if the answer is no, probably wait. Will your investments collapse in 24 hours? Almost certainly not. Will your relationship end because you didn't respond to a text tonight? Probably not. Will the war be decided by your social media post? Definitely not. The 24-hour rule doesn't apply to emergencies, it applies to everything else. And everything else is where 95% of your worst decisions get made. I want to give you a specific plan you can start tonight. Not a theory, a practice. Every day for the next 30 days, I want you to catch yourself once in a moment where you're about to react and apply the 24-hour rule instead. Doesn't have to be a life-changing decision. It can be an email that made you angry. Write your reply, save it as a draft, send it tomorrow. Don't automatically send it tomorrow. Read it. A social media post you want to share, save it. Come back in 24 hours, see if you still want to post it. A conversation where someone said something that got under your skin. Say, let me think about that, and come back to it the next day. A purchase driven by emotion. Put it in your cart, close the page, check tomorrow if you still want it. A money impulse. Write down what you want to do. Sleep on it. Decide tomorrow. Keep your running count. At the end of 30 days, look at your list. I predict that at least 70% of the reactive decisions you paused on will look different. Calmer, smarter, more proportionate. After the 24-hour gap, and many of them, you'll be thankful you didn't act on all of it. And please share it in the comments. I am very curious on your reaction or your reactions and experiences with this practice. Please, other people might actually learn from your comments on the 24-hour role. Also, start a simple decision journal. For every significant decision, write three things before you decide. What am I feeling right now? Name that emotion. Fear, anger, excitement, pressure, just naming it takes away its power. Psychologists call this effect labeling. Putting a word on a feeling literally calms the brain's fear response. What would I tell my best friend to do in this situation? This pulls you out of your advice and out of your uh your own head and bypasses the emotional weight you're carrying. It's the same advice, just delivering filming, calmer version of yourself. So what would I tell my best friend to do in this situation? And then finally, what will I think about this decision in six months? This force long-term thinking when your brain is trapped in right now panic. Write the answers, then wait 24 hours, then decide. The simple practice, three questions, and a night of sleep would produce a better outcome than any amount of intelligence, education, or experience, because intelligence without emotional control is just as faster way to make smarter sounding mistakes. Now I want to be honest with you about something. This series uh was called Thinking Through Crisis. And we use the Iranian war as the anchor because it's what's happening right now. And because it touches every area of critical thinking, how you take in information, how you understand history, how you handle money, how you spot manipulation, how you persuade people, how you deal with tribal pressure, and how you make decisions. But the series was never really about the war. It was always about you, about the decisions you make every day with your money, your relationships, your career, your beliefs, your identity, your time, and your attention. The war will end. The next crisis will start, and the thinking skills you've built over these seven weeks will still be there. They'll work in the next crisis and the one after that. And in every conversation, every conflict, every decision for the rest of your life, I spent more than 20 years learning these principles the hard way. In the army, where I learned that slow is smooth, smooth is fast. And also where I learned that personal attacks can override everything you know about staying calm. And the NYPD, where I learned to read people, de-escalate crisis, and make decisions under impossible pressure. And also where I learned that fear can turn you into someone you're not proud of. Emerald Lynch, where I learned the biggest threat to your money is your own psychology. And also where I watched brilliant people destroy themselves by reacting instead of thinking. And now at my charter school, where I learn every single day from young people who haven't been taught to be afraid of thinking for themselves. Here's what I want you to carry with you. When your feed is on fire, be clear. Check your body before you check your phone. When the headlines are screaming, ask what the story starts. Question the starting point. When your money is panicking, hold. Don't fear, make your financial decisions. Or don't let fear, I should say. When someone is trying to influence you, radar, ask who benefits from you not having time to think. When you want to change someone's mind, shift. Seek first, ask questions, frame around what they value. When you feel pulled into a team, audit. Ask yourself, am I thinking or am I just belonging? And when everything in you screens to react right now, give it 24 hours. Just 24 hours. The decision will still be there tomorrow. And you'll be different, you'll be calmer, you'll be smarter, and you be you instead of the stress hormone. That's the system. That's everything I've got. From an army to the NYPD to Wall Street to the classroom. These are all the tools that have saved my careers, plural, my relationships, my money, and in some cases, my life. And now they're yours. If this series meant something to you, if it changed how you process even one piece of information, make one financial decision, have one conversation, or think about one issue, I have three asks. First, share the series with one person who needs it. Not on social media, person to person, a text, a DM, listen to this. It changed how I think. That's how real change spreads. Not through algorithms, but through relationships. Second, you can join the community. Everything we've built, the clear protocol, the worksheet, the whole protocol, the radar, pocket reference uh card, the shift method, conversation planner, the tribe audit, the decision journal, and the complete 24-hour rule. It's all available in my Substack at Maponty.substack.com. That's M-A-A-P-O-N-T-E.Substack.com. Link is in the description. Free subscribers get the core worksheets. Paid subscribers get the complete critical thinking toolkit. Every framework, every template, every exercise from all seven episodes in one downloadable bundle. I also post regularly uh essays that expand further and on the uh podcast as well as my on my podcast notes. Um everything. Uh every exercise from all seven episodes in one downloadable bundle is ten dollars a month, less than your coffee habit, and it will save you from decisions that cost you thousands, if not millions. Third, if you want to go all the way, if you want to build this skill permanently from the ground up with structured lessons and exercises, I am creating a Udemy course. Um, in order for you to be in the know, you got to sign up for my free Substack. That's when I'll make the announcements when it's uh fully available. Um, I'm also will be creating a school community that's coming soon. But also, if you want a consulting or advisory for me directly, you can go to the link below. My consulting advisory site is maaponty.com. Um, everything is there, all the information. If you are very serious about a mentorship program, I am accepting a few clients. Um, that's not a persuasion technique. I really can only accept a few clients because I do work full-time as a school director and I'm writing my second book, and you know, I take care of family. So, combination of those things. My time is limited, so I am taking a few clients. So you put the link is in the description if you want direct consulting from me. I also want you to know that this is not the end. This was the Thinking Through Crisis series, but thinking to think continues. This podcast will continue. I'm gonna be creating new series planned out, and I do post weekly episodes. And I want to close this one with five words I opened the series with. The words my sergeant lived on the street in Jamaica, Queens, and on the worst day of those rookied lives, the words I learned from combat veterans in the army, and from my enlisted family members before I ever wore a uniform. The words that have guided me through every crisis, every conflict, and every decision that mattered. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Keep thinking. I'll see you next week. I'm Mike Aponti, also known as M. A. Aponte, and this is Thinking to Think.