Appeasement vs Aggression: Why Most Leaders Fail When Pressure Hits; Where Should The Iran Story Begin?

In high-pressure environments, leaders are often forced into what feels like a binary choice: appease or confront.

But what if both options are flawed?

In this episode of Thinking 2 Think, M.A. Aponte breaks down one of the most dangerous traps in decision-making—false dichotomies under pressure—through the lens of appeasement vs aggression.

Drawing from history, leadership psychology, and real-world decision frameworks, this episode explores how poor judgment in high-stakes moments leads to long-term consequences in business, education, and leadership.

Inside this episode:

• The psychology behind appeasement and aggression
• Why leaders default to extremes under pressure
• Historical examples of appeasement vs confrontation
• The hidden cost of “short-term peace” decisions
• A third-path framework for better decision-making
• How to maintain clarity when emotions and stakes are high

If you're a leader, educator, entrepreneur, or decision-maker navigating uncertainty, this episode will help you think more clearly when it matters most.

We trace the full chain behind the Iran conflict from early oil concessions and Cold War pressure to the 1953 coup, the 1979 revolution, and the nuclear standoff driving today’s war. We steel man both sides of the military-action argument and pull out the thinking errors that keep people certain, loud, and wrong.

• the two common Iran origin stories and what each leaves out 
• the 1901 oil concession and why resource control shapes identity 
• WWII occupation, Soviet pressure, and why geography becomes destiny 
• the Tudeh Party as a case study in holding complexity 
• Mossadegh’s nationalization and the competing claims about his rule 
• the 1953 coup as a convergence of interests not one motive 
• the Shah’s dictatorship, SAVAK repression, and the path to 1979 
• the embassy hostage crisis as first-order thinking with long costs 
• proxy wars, Iran-Contra, Flight 655, and the escalation feedback loop 
• the nuclear timeline from AMAD to the JCPOA to post-2018 breaches 
• steel manning the pro-strike case and the anti-strike case 
• four thinking failures: narrative manipulation, first-order thinking, sunk cost fallacy, confirmation bias 
• practical homework: question the starting point, steel man the other side, find your sunk cost 

Transcript

Two Competing Stories About 1953

The 1901 Oil Deal Backstory

WWII Occupation And Soviet Pressure

The Tudeh Party And Complexity

Mossadegh As Hero And Power Grab

Four Motives Behind The Coup

Shah Rule To 1979 Hostage Crisis

Proxy Wars And Reinforcing Escalation

The Nuclear Timeline And JCPOA

Steel Manning Both Sides On Strikes

Four Thinking Failures And Your Life

Homework And How To Keep Learning

Next Week Preview And Final Charge

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In this episode, we're gonna go deeper regarding the Iranian conflict, something that mainstream is not covering. See, the story most Americans know starts in 1979. The story most Iranians know starts in 1953. But the real story starts earlier with oil deals, Russian expansion, Cold War fear, the dis and decisions by every side that stacked on top of each other for decades. No side is innocent, no side is all guilty. The thinking mistakes are the same ones people make every day. So, without further ado, let's get into it. Both are true and both are missing the other half. Story number one: in 1953, the CIA and the British intelligence helped kick out Iran's prime minister, a man their own people had chosen. They replaced him with a king who ran the country for about 26 years using a secret police force that allegedly tortured and killed anyone who disagreed with him. They did it at least in part to protect Western oil interests. The CIA admitted it in 2013 when they released the secret files. And this source is by the CIA declassified documents, the 2013 National Security Archive and George Washington University, the U.S. State Department. Story number two. In the years before that overthrow, Iran was falling apart. The economy was collapsing because Britain had cut off Iran's ability to sell oil to the world. The largest communist party in the Middle East, a group called the Today, and again, some of these words, I may not be saying it correctly, but that's okay. Context is what matters, was growing fast. Uh, the today had people inside the military and proven connections to Russia. The Soviet Union had already tried to grab a piece of Northern Iran after World War II. The prime minister, while he wasn't a communist himself, had started ruling by himself, making decisions without a vote, jailing people who opposed him, and depending on the today uh Tud uh to put crowds in the streets for him. Uh, major religious leaders who once backed him turned against him. The country was coming apart at the seams, and it shared a long border with the Soviet Union right in the middle of the Cold War. And again, this is sourced from Congressional Research Service, uh, the bulletin of the atomic scientists, CIA, operational history, the battle of Iran. Now, if you only hear story one, America is the bad guy. If you only hear story two, America was making a tough but reasonable Cold War decision. The truth is messier than either version. And for 73 years, each side has been telling the version that makes them look right, while making decisions based on a picture that's missing half the information. Now we're at war with Iran, and I can almost guarantee you that nobody on your feed, nobody on cable news, nobody in the political commentary, regardless of sides, nobody in the TikTok hot takes is giving you both stories because the messy middle doesn't get clicks. Picking a side does. And that's probably why this is going to be either shadow banned or not given the full uh spotlight that it deserves. Today I'm going to give you the full chain, every link, every side, every thinking mistake. Not so you can pick a team, so you can actually understand what's happening and why the same thinking mistakes that created a 73-year crisis between two countries are the same ones destroying marriages, draining bank accounts, and ruining careers. The scale is obviously different. The psychology, however, is identical. I'm like Aponte, also known as M. A. Aponte, and this is Thinking to Think. If this is your first time here, we focus on all things in critical thinking, problem solving, leadership, and social sciences. I am a former soldier, Merrill Lynch, BlackRock wealth manager, former police officer, educator, and now an executive director of a charter school. I'm a published author, and currently have my own consulting firm. If you have any interest in improving your critical thinking, problem solving, leadership, or have a general interest in the different social sciences such as government, psychology, history, etc., please subscribe to this channel since I do post weekly on a variety of topics. So please like, share, subscribe. Parts 1. Before 1953. The part nobody tells you. Now, to understand 1953, you have to go back further because the overthrow didn't come out of nowhere. There were focus building for decades that made it. Maybe not unavoidable, but deeply predictable to anyone paying attention. Let me walk you through it. We're first going to focus on the catalyst, where it all began. And that starts with the famous word oil, where it all started. In 1901, a British businessman named William Knox Diarkey cut a deal with Iran's government to be the only company allowed to drill for and sell Iran's oil. The deal was completely one-sided. Iran got a tiny piece of the money while a British company ran everything. By the 1940s, the Anglo-Iranian oil company, the company we know now as BP, had become the most profitable British business in the world. Think about that for a second. Iran was sitting on one of the biggest oil supplies on the planet, and its own people were living in poverty, while that money went mostly to London. That created a deep, real anger among everyday Iranians. This wasn't fake outrage. It was a real unjust. People were watching their country, greatest resource, making someone else rich. That anger built up for decades. But, and this matters, the British had also built everything that made the oil business work the refineries, the pipelines, the shipping network. That was British money and British engineering. So when Iran later took over the oil industry, the British had a real complaint too. Not one that justifies what happened next, but a real one. Both sides had a case. Already you're seeing the pattern that will repeat for the next 73 years. And what was happening during that time when these within those 73 years? Well, World War II. That leads to Russian shadow. During World War II, Britain and the Soviet Union both occupied Iran to protect supply routes and keep the oil out of German hands. After the war ended, Britain left. The Soviets didn't. They tried to keep control of northern Iran and backed groups trying to break away and form their own separate countries. This was the first major standoff between the US and Russia over Iran. The Soviets eventually pulled out under international pressure in 1946. But the message was clear. Moscow saw Iran as a prize worth fighting for. And the today party, Iran's Communist Party, started in 1941. And this kept its connection to Moscow and grew into the biggest political party in the country. Now here's where the critical thinking kicks in. The today or today party looks very different depending on who's describing them. To the West, they were Russian puppets, a group connected to Russian intelligence known as the KGB that killed political opponents, bombed police stations, and would have handed Iran to Russia if they got the chance. To the Iranian left, they were the real political party fighting for workers' rights that got unfairly painted as villains by Western spin. The evidence says both descriptions had truth in them. Secret documents that were later released confirmed that today's party had real ties to Russian intelligence, but they also had genuine support from working-class Iranians who were sick of being poor while foreigners got rich off their oil. Here's the thing both of those can be true at the same time. And that's what psychologists call holding complexity. A group can represent real problems and be influenced by a foreign power at the same time. But in 1953, neither side could hold both ideas. The Iranian left only saw the class struggle. Here's where things get a little bit more complicated. We're going to start with Mohammed Mozadeh, who became prime minister in 1951. He's one of the most argued about leaders in the part of the world. And how you see him usually says more about your views than about who he actually was. What's not argued about, he was appointed by the Shah, Iran's king, and approved by Parliament. He took over the British Oil Company, now BP, and said Iran's resources should benefit Iran. This made him wildly popular at home and created a showdown with Britain. What is argued about basically everything else? His fans call him a champion of democracy who stood up to powerful countries trying to push Iran around. His critics point out that he came from a wealthy, powerful family, started ruling by himself through emergency orders from 1952 on, shut down parliament, jailed people who disagreed with him, and held a vote where he supposedly got 99% approval. And that number doesn't happen in real elections. He wasn't a communist, and he actually criticized the Today for wanting to give oil deals to Russia. But by 1953, he was depending on the Today as his main muscle in the streets, a partnership of convenience that scared both the religious leaders and the West. This resource came from CIA Operational History, the National Security Archive. Now, here's what a clear thinker notices. He can be both a leader with a real complaint about his country's oil being stolen, and a politician who was grabbing more and more power as people turned against him. Those aren't opposites. That's just real life being complicated. And smashing that complexity down into either hero or dictator is the first thinking failure in this 73-year chain. So what actually led to the overthrow in August 1953? It wasn't one reason, it was multiple reasons all coming together at the same time. Researchers call this a convergence of interests. Different groups wanting different things, but all arriving at the same action. Britain wanted its oil monopoly back. That's documented. The British flat out asked the US to help get rid of the Mussadegh after he took over their company. When President Truman said no, they waited for Eisenhower. The two, the US was afraid Russia would take over Yvan. Whether that fear matched the real danger, is still debated. But the fear itself was real. The CIA's own secret documents from 1953 actually said a Tudor takeover was unlikely, but the politicians used the communist threat to justify actions anyway. The Dulles brothers, one running the CIA, the other running the State Department, believed any country not firmly on America's side was in danger of going communist. 3. Iran's own religious leaders turned against the Muzadakh. This gets left out of the story a lot. Other senior religious leaders, including some historians say a young uh Uhalla Khomeini, backed bringing the Shah back. A 2018 secret British document that was later released showed the U.S. Embassy sent large amounts of money to influential people, including senior Iranian religious leaders in the days before the overthrow. 4. The Mozadegh was losing support at home. The British oil cutoff had wrecked the economy. Tens of thousands of people lost their jobs. His emergency rule pushed away people in the middle. The Dudek group was growing, was a growing presence, scared in the middle class and the religious community. The CIA paid for fake protests, bribed newspapers, editors to print lies, and hired street gangs to create chaos. About 300 people died. Musateh was arrested, put on trial, sentenced to three years in prison, then lived under a house arrest until he died. The Shah was put back in power and ruled for 26 more years as a dictator backed by the West. And here's where I want you to think carefully. Depending on which of these four reasons you focus on, you get a completely different conclusion about whether it was right or wrong. If it's about oil, it looks like powerful countries bullying a weaker one. What people call imperialism. If it's about communism, it looks like a necessary Cold War decision. If it's about Iran's own collapse, it looks like a tragic step into a government that was already failing. If it's about religious politics, it complicates the America forced this story because Iranian leaders actively helped make it happen. The honor's answer is it was all for at the same time. And the inability to hold all four, the need to crush it down into one simple story, is itself a thinking failure that has twisted this history for 73 years. Part 2: The Shaw, the Revolution, and the Hostages. Whatever you think about the overthrow, the results are not up for debate. The Shah grabbed all the power, ruled as a dictator, and used Savak, his secret police, trained with the CIA's help to crush anyone who spoke up. Iran's economy grew, but at the cost of the people's freedom. By the late 1970s, a huge mix of groups, people who wanted democracy, leftists, uh religious leaders, and ordinary Iranians fed up with the corruption and being silent, all rose up together. The Shah ran in January 1979. Ayatollah Khamani came back from being forced out of the country and set up the Islamic Republic. Now we see pictures and images of the times of the 1970s. There was a strong middle class. That is undebatable because we have the evidence, we have the primary resources. But in 1979, in November, Iranian students took over the U.S. Embassy and held 52 Americans hostage for 444 days. They called the embassy the Den of Spies and demanded the Shah be sent back. He'd been led into the U.S. for cancer treatment. Now, the critical thinking question. Was taking the embassy justified? The students said they were stopping a second 1953. The embassy had been used for spying. That's documented. Their fear of another American overthrow wasn't crazy, but the decision to hold those hostages for over a year turned Iran into a country nobody wanted to deal with. It's what happens when a country becomes so isolated that nobody will work with them. Political scientists call that becoming a pariah state. It destroyed any chance of talking things out for decades and guaranteed that America would be hostile toward Iran from that point on. The revolutionaries solved a short-term problem at home, locking in their power by creating a long-term threat to their own survival. That's solving today's problem by creating tomorrow's disaster. Sound familiar? Psychologists call this first order thinking, fixing what's right in front of you without asking what happens next. Part three, escalation, proxy wars, double standards, and mistakes on top of mistakes. The next four decades follow a pattern so consistent you could set your watch to it. Between 1980 and 1988, Iraq, led by Saddam Hussein, invades Iran. The U.S. gives intelligence and weapons to Iraq. About one million people die. Think about that. The U.S. is hostile toward Iran while its friend is invading them. In 1983, 241 U.S. Marines were killed in a bombing in Beut, Lebanon, linked to Hezbollah, a group backed by Iran. This is the deadliest single attack on U.S. Marines since World War II. 1986, the Iran Contra scandal. Senior officials in the Reagan White House secretly sold weapons to Iran, the same country they publicly called a state sponsor of terrorism, and used the money to secretly fund rebel groups in Nicaragua. This isn't conspiracy theory. Congress investigated it and confirmed it. In 1988, the U.S. Navy shoots down Iranian Air Flight 655, a civilian passenger plane, killing all 290 people on board, including 66 children. The U.S. government said it was sorry, but never officially apologized. To this day, many Iranians believe it was done on purpose. In 2003, the U.S. invades Iraq, claiming Saddam Hussein had weapons of mass destruction. Those claims turned out to be wrong. There were no weapons. Iran watched its neighbor get invaded and destroyed over weapons that didn't exist and killed. Came to a reasonable conclusion. Maybe the only way to stop the same thing from happening to you us is to actually get those weapons. And this sources is from Congressional Research Service, the U.S. Department of Records, Congressional Investigation of Iran Contra, ICAO investigation of Flight 655. Every single event in this chain follows the same pattern. One side does something, and the other side reacts in a way that makes the next move even more extreme. It's like a snowball rolling downhill. Every action makes the next reaction bigger and more dangerous. Systems thinkers call this a reinforcing feedback loop. And at no point in 73 years does anyone on either side step back and ask, is what we're doing actually working? That's what happens when you're invested so much that quitting feels impossible. Economists call it the sunk cost fallacy. The idea that I've already put into too much in to walk away now. It's the same reason you keep paying for a gym membership you never use. Except when countries do it, people die. Part 4, the nuclear question. Backing down, broken deals, and the road to war. Now we get to the part that matters most for understanding today. And I need you to hold two things in your head at the same time, because both are true. Number one, Iran was working toward being able to build nuclear weapons. Nobody credible argues otherwise. US intelligence found that Iran was actually trying to build a bomb under a secret program called AMAD from the late 1980s until 2003 when they officially stopped the weapons program. But they never stopped enriching uranium. That means processing raw uranium to make it more powerful. Enrichment is the hardest part of building a bomb. Once you can do that, the rest is a shorter technical step. Number two, the world tried to solve this through talking and deal making, what's called diplomacy, over and over, across multiple decades, under multiple presidents. And the pattern that came out of all that effort is deeply troubling. Here's the documented timeline. In 2002, Iran's secret uranium enrichment program is exposed by opposition groups living outside Iran. 2005, the IAEA, the International Atomic Energy Agency, basically the world's nuclear watchdog, finds Iran is breaking the rules they agreed to follow. 2006 through 2010, the UN Security Council passes resolution about, excuse me, after resolution demanding Iran stop enriching uranium and puts increasing pressure on them through sanctions, economic penalties designed to force a change. Iran keeps enriching anyway. In 2015, the JCPOA, also called the Iranian nuclear deal, is signed by Iran. The US, UK, France, Germany, Russia, and China. Iran agrees to limit how much they enrich uranium, cut their equipment by two-thirds, and let inspectors into uh verify. In exchange, over$100 billion in frozen money released back to Iran, plus sanctions lifted. The deal held for about three years. The IAEA confirmed Iran was following the rules, but in May 2018, the US pulled out of the deal, pointing to Iran's missile programs, its support for armed groups in other countries, and what the White House called basic problems with the agreement. At that time, America walked away, and the IAEA was reporting that Iran was keeping its end of the bargain. And this is from the IEA verification reports 2016 through 2018. What happened next is where the argument for military action gets its power. This is what happens when people mean what they talk about as appeasement, backing down or giving into a threat, hoping they'll stop, but instead they just got bolder. In 2019, Iran starts going past the deal's limits, enriching beyond the 3.67% cap they agreed to. In 2020, after the US killed Iran's top general, Qasim Salomani, Iran said it would no longer follow any of the deal's limits, enrichment sped up fast. In 2022, excuse me, 2021, Iran started enriching to 20%, way past anything needed for peaceful energy. In 2023, the IAEA found uranium particles enrichment to 83.7% at one of Iran's facilities. Weapons grade is 90%. Iran called it an accidental fluctuation. You can decide how much you believe that. October 2025, Iran officially killed the nuclear deal and said none of the limits applied anymore. Late 2025 through February 2026, another round of talks with the country of Oman helping their arrange them ultimately failed. Iran reportedly agreed to get rid of all of its enrichment, what's called zero stockpiling, and then the strikes began on February 28th before the deal could be finished. Now, these sources come from the IAEA Quarterly Reports 2019 and 2025, House of Commons Library Research Briefing, CBP 9870, as well as the Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists Timeline, E3 Foreign Ministers Letter to the UN Security Council in August 2025, and the Congressional Research Service. Let me be straight about what this timeline shows. Over 20 years of trying to talk this out, involving every major power in the world, produced deals that got signed and then broken or walked away from. The enrichment never actually stopped for long. The stockpile grew, technology got better, every deal brought time. And during that time, Iran got closer to being able to be, to be able to build a weapon. That's the factual record. But that factual record also shows the US walked away from the deal while Iran was following it. It shows that Iran's most aggressive moves came after America broke the agreement. It shows that negotiations were literally happening with a reported breakthrough on zero stockpiling while the bombs started falling. Both of those things are documented, both are real. And which one you put more weight on determines whether you see this war as a necessary last resort or an unavoidable choice. Excuse me, avoidable choice. That's the question about facts. It's a question about framing, which facts you put into the spotlight and which ones you leave in the shadows. And framing is where critical thinking either saves you or fails you. Most people, when they disagree with someone, attack the weakest, dumbest version of the other side's argument. I'm pretty confident that some of you may have already attacked me either through the comments or verbally while listening to this podcast before I even got to finish the second half of the history of the Iranian crisis. Nevertheless, that's called a straw man, and it's lazy. A steel man is the opposite. You build the strongest possible version of the argument you disagree with stronger than the other person would make it themselves. And then if you can beat that, you actually earned your position. So let me give you the best version of both cases. The case that military action was necessary. Here we go. Iran worked toward nuclear weapons for decades. Every attempt at a deal followed the same pattern, agree to limits, collect the benefits, then break the limits once the pressure goes away, or find ways around the rules. The JCPOA was the biggest attempt, and it gave us three years of compliance followed by violations that kept getting worse until Iran was right at the edge of having a bomb. At the same time, the Iranian government was doing what human rights groups describe as slaughtering its own people. The 2025-26 protests were met with violence that killed thousands. The exact numbers are argued about, but the scale is not. They shut down the internet to hide the evidence. The government was beating and killing its own citizens with one hand while reaching for a weapon that would make them untail untouchable with the other. The nuclear math matters. Also, if Iran gets a bomb, the whole equation changes forever. Saudi Arabia, Turkey, and Egypt would almost certainly start their own weapons programs. Imagine every major country in the most unstable part of the world racing to build nuclear weapons. The argument is, yes, acting now is expensive and painful. But letting Iran get a bomb is far more expensive and far more painful down the road. The people who support this action point to a broader pattern of what happens when you keep backing down from a government that breaks its promises while building up its weapons. The word for that is appeasement, giving in to a threat and hoping it goes away. Historically, it doesn't. It just creates more dangerous enemies. And I want to be honest with you, part of this argument, uh argument are strong. The pattern broken agreements is documented. The nuclear progress is real. The government's treatment of its own people is documented by multiple independent organizations. These are not made-up claims. Now, I'm going to switch sides and now I'm going to steel man a case that military action was avoidable. The United States pulled out of the nuclear deal in 2018 while the IEA confirmed Iran was following the rules. Every single Iranian violation that happened after that happened after America walked away. You can say the deal was imperfect. A lot of serious experts do, but the order matters. The U.S. left first. America's own director of national intelligence told Congress as recently as March 2025 that Iran had not restarted its weapons program. The IAEA said Iran was not days or weeks away from a bomb. U.S. intelligence estimated Iran would need until about 2035 to build a long-range missile that could reach America. Having enriched uranium is a necessary step toward a weapon, but it's not the whole thing. There's a real gap between having the material and having a working weapon you can actually use. Negotiations were happening. Multiple rounds of talks with Oman helping set them up. Had reportedly reached a breakthrough on the zero stockpiling question days before the strikes began. The European Council on Foreign Relations called the strikes an illegal war of choice. Legal experts questioned whether the strikes were legal under the rules that govern when countries can attack each other, what's known as the UN Charter. And the comparison to World War II, comparing Iran to Nazi Germany, is emotionally powerful, but doesn't hold up when you actually look at the facts. Iran's economy, military power, and the goals are nothing like 1938 Germany. Iran is a mid-sized country with an old, worn-out military that was being weakened by economic penalties, not an industrial superpower gearing up to conquer a continent. Again, I want to be honest, part of this argument are also strong. The US did leave the deal first. Intelligence did not support the idea that an attack was coming any day. Negotiations were happening. The legal basis is questioned by serious scholars. Now, holding both at the same time. And here's what I need you to understand. And this is the heart of what this show teaches. Both of these positions have real evidence behind them. Neither one is made up. In the second one, uh you crush this down into one simple story. We had it to act, or this was a crime. You stopped thinking and started performing. It can be true at the same time that Iran was building toward nuclear weapons and that the timeline didn't demand strikes right this second. It can also be true that the Iranian government is brutal and that bombing their country won't free their people. It can be true that the deal after deal got broken, and that most recent deals were sabotaged before it could work. Feeling certain feels good. Sitting with complexity, what academics call nuance, the messy deals that make easy answers impossible feels uncomfortable. But comfort is not the goal of thinking. Understanding is, and understanding means holding two contradicting ideas long enough to find the truth hiding inside both of them. And let me name the specific thinking mistakes that created this chain. And as I go through them, I want you to check yourself. Because I promise you, you're making the same ones in your own life. Failure one, where you start the story controls the ending. If you start the story in 1953, America is the one who started all of this. If you start in 1979, Iran is the aggressor. If you start in 1944, when Russia tried to grab part of Iran, the West looked like it was plain defense. If you start in 1901, when the original oil deal, Britain is the colonizer, every starting point gives you a different villain and a different hero. This is what's called narrative manipulation. Controlling the story by choosing where it begins. And every side does it. Right now, on your feed, people are picking their starting point based on which ending they want you to believe. Your job as a clear thinker is to always ask what happened before this story starts. I teach this to my students and my staff at my charter school. When two kids are in a fight and I ask what happened, they always start at the moment the other uh kid did something wrong. I always ask, and what happened before that? Within three rounds of that question, you usually find the real cause. And it's almost never where either kid wanted the story to start. Failure two, only solving today's problems without asking what happens tomorrow. In 1953, you get rid of Muzdak, lock down the oil, block communism. Nobody asks what happens in 20 years when the people fight back. 1979, seize the embassy, stop another overthrow. Nobody asks, what happens when you make America your permanent enemy? In 2018, rip out the deal, put on maximum pressure. Nobody asks, what happens when Iran has no reason to follow the rules anymore? 2026, bomb Iran, push for a new government. The question now nobody can answer yet, what happens next? Every decision in 73 years was what psychologists call first order thinking, solving whatever's right in front of you without looking at what your solution creates down the road. It's like killing a wasp by swinging a baseball bat in your kitchen. Sure, the wasp is dead, but now you have a hole in the wall. That's first order thinking. And this is the lesson from my systems thinking episode applied to the biggest examples I've ever covered. Failure three. I've already put too much in to quit now. America has spent trillions of dollars and thousands of lives on Middle East policy. Admitting the whole approach hasn't worked means admitting all of that was wasted. That's too painful to accept. So every president doubles down instead. More sanctions, more troops, more force, because walking away feels like losing. Iran is caught in the same trap. They've built their entire national identity around fighting America. Their economy has been crushed by penalties for decades. Actually compromising would mean admitting that the revolution's core story, we are all the victims of America bully, was incomplete. So they doubled down too. Economists call this the sunk cost fallacy, the idea that you should keep going because you've already invested so much. Even when the smart move is to change course. I watched this exact pattern at Merrill Lynch. A client losing money on an investment keeps pouring more money in because I've already put too much in to walk away. That's not strategy, that's emotional attachment to a losing position. And when countries do it, people die. Failure four, only seeing what you already believe. In 1953, the US was so afraid of communism that it looked at a leader who loved his country, a nationalist, and saw a communist and said, in 2003, it was so afraid of weapons of mass destruction that it invaded a country that didn't have them. In 2026, Iran's nuclear enrichment is real, but the specific claims. About how close and how urgent the threat was is questionable. Those were questioned by America's own intelligence agencies. On the Iranian side, death to America has been the operating motto for 45 years. Any American handshake is seen as a trick. Any American bomb confirms that they already believed. Both sides are stuck in what psychologists call confirmation bias. Your brain's built-in, yes, man, that loves finding evidence you're right and hides evidence that you might be wrong. Both countries have been running on confirmation bias for seven decades. And neither side story has updated because updating would mean admitting that your side also made devastating mistakes. So what does this mean for you? These aren't just failures between countries, they're human failures, they're your failures, and you're making the same ones right now. In your relationships, every long-running fight has a where does the story start? Problem. You start at the moment they hurt you. They start at the moment you hurt them. The real cause is three conversations back, and neither of you has dealt with it. In your money, you're holding on to a losing investment because you've already put too much into sell. That's sunk cost. The money you already lost is gone, whether you sell it or not. The only question is, what's the smartest move from here? In your career, you keep doubling down on an approach that isn't working because changing directions feels like admitting you were wrong. So, your homework this week. Three things. Pick one fight in your life. Ask yourself, where does my version of this story start? Now ask, where does their version start? What happened before you start pointing that you're not seeing? Steel man the other side. Build the absolute strongest case for their position. Stronger than they would build it themselves. If you can't do this, you don't understand the fight well enough to fix it. And find your sunk cost. What have you invested? Time, money, pride? That's keeping you from considering a different approach. Ask yourself: if I had zero history with this situation, what would I do? That's probably the right answer. So let me bring it home. Today we traced the full 73-year chain from oil deals and Russian expansion to the overthrow, and it's four different motives: the revolution, the hostage crisis, four decades of wars fought through other countries and mistakes stacked on top of each other. And the nuclear standoff that brought us to the current war. We built the strongest case for military action and the strongest case against it. And we named four thinking failures, controlling where the story starts, first order thinking, sunk cost fallacy, and confirmation bias that operated on both sides across seven decades. The lesson is not both sides are equally wrong. The lesson is if you can't build the strongest version of the argument you disagree with, you haven't earned the right to your opinion. That's the standard this show holds. It's the standard I'm asking you to hold yourself to. So share this episode with someone who needs the context. They're not getting anywhere else. Not as a political statement, as a thinking exercise. Free worksheets, the clear protocol from my previous episode, plus a new where does your story start exercise are at the uh my Substack, M-A-Aponti. So M-A-A-P-O-N-T-E dot substack.com. The full critical thinking toolkit is available to paid subscribers for ten dollars a month. My Udemy course is gonna be able to walk you through every framework from the ground up. That's coming soon. But in order for you to know, you have to subscribe to the to Thinking to Think, and you have to subscribe to Substack, where I'll make that announcement when it's live. Next week episode Your Money is Panicking. Are you oil prices are spiking, fluctuating all over the place, markets are all over the place, gas had its biggest single-day price jump since 2005, and people you know are about to make more money decisions they'll regret for the next decade. I used to manage money through a major market crash and Admiral Lynch in BlackRock. I watched smart people lose hundreds of thousands of dollars, not because the market crashed, but because their fear made the decisions. I'm going to teach you exactly how to protect yourself and your family. So don't miss that. In order for you not to miss that, please like, subscribe, excuse me, just subscribe. And uh you may want to put the notification on some of these platforms uh wherever you're listening. Until then, question the starting point, steel man the other side, and keep thinking. I'm Mike Aponte, also known as M A Aponte, and this is Thinking to Think.